What are you pretending not to know about “YOU”

In the mindset of self-awareness:

I often pretend not to know what or how to lose weight. Then one day I woke up and realized that I know what to do, I just don’t want to do it!!!!

We often play these sea saw moments of life when our emotional intelligence is pulling to take over to say “HEY pay attention to what I am trying to tell ya, i am here to help” BUT we don’t wanna cause then we would have to work on loosing weight. Back and forth we go until we are tired of riding the ride.

If you are not ready to exercise, or if you are not ready to change your eating habits, then start off by creating a space for yourself to mentally prepare for the actions that need to change for you to accomplish whatever it is your pretending to not know. Allow yourself time to be one with yourself to connect to be mindful of the changes you want to make. Everyone’s process of change is like fingerprints, they are not the same. You have to mentally find your process, wether it be writing, talking, thinking, or drawing. It is your journey, your process let it be where you need it just as long as you are Self-Aware of “YOU”


3 Step methodology into personal growth 

G T G= Gratitude, Thought Process, and Group. When we have all three of these rocking and guiding us we will always be GTG (good to go)!

GRATITUDEGratitude is a powerful process for shifting energy and bringing more of what you want
in life. Be grateful for what you have, not just what you want.

Toothpaste, gas in the car, food,love, the end of a break up from a not so nice person, gut feelings,
etc. etc. etc.

“One day I was driving 10 MPH over the 65 MPH on the freeway, until this car pulled in front of me causing me to slam
on my breaks. I knew then, shit I better slow down. Still watching this car; the car was about 5 cars
ahead of me, i saw this car swerve and hit the median. After avoiding the rest of the traffic I realized the cars was swerving to avoid hitting a dog that was loose on the freeway. You see, if that car would have not pulled out in front of me I would have never slowed down and it would have been me who was upside down on the median. I was grateful. I was grateful that the universe pulled me in the proper direction.”

You see, we often forget about what we have and complain about what we don’t. Gratitude can
transform common days into glorious nights, turn routine jobs into doing what you truly want and
love. Gratitude is we get what we give and can change the ordinary opportunities into a new life.

THOUGHT PROCESS: dictionary says thought process means ” The process of using your mind to
consider something carefully”

Your thought creates your reality, if you don’t like your reality then change your thought

When we think negative: I’m never gonna find the love of my life, I’m never gonna get out of this
debt, I’m never gonna be fully happy, I’m never gonna be able to do enough. THEN THAT IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN EVERY SINGLE TIME SOMETHING GOES WRONG. 

take a thought you always think…. does thinking that thought bring you peace or stress, Which one
helps you function better? change that thought you will change how you function. Mayo Angelou wrote ” If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking, you might find a new solution”

Stop and think this—– The concept of accepting your past/future to simply believe the impossible is possible—- put the energy of positive thinking out in the world in your present day— stand back see what happens and above all—don’t get in your way, don’t go back to the negative… Ain’t no one got time for that.


The more the merrier… it takes a village.. two heads are better than one… All these adages speak to the potential of a positive group being more productive, more creative, and more motivating than doing things alone.

Put yourself in a group of you’s… what group or community would you put yourself in? AA, weight watchers, spiritual guidance, fitness gym, breast feeding group, mom’s rule group?

Whatever group/community outlet (when I say community I don’t mean food kitchen or shelter) I mean a place that has like minded people who need to lean and learn on each other and from each other… support each other. To be apart of something greater contributes to our own greatness. We can’t control other people, what other’s think of us, has nothing to do with us. But we have the ability to help ourselves in whatever capacity that is. Having a group or community to help support us and push us along only enhances that experience.

I know what some of you are thinking.. OVAYYY groups. Putting yourself out there is uncomfortable, but the truth is we have to get uncomfortable to grow!!! In today’s world we have so many outlets that can jumpstart our search for the type of groups wether it be listening to a podcast, reading a blog, or simply going to a group fitness class.

You see once we find a group or community that guides us to our true selves, we never go back to the old us, cause the new us is to0 busy spreading our energy, our joy, our waking moment to everyone else. Get uncomfortable.. Begin to build yourself up to greatness. 



You know that squirrel from ICE AGE, that is always chasing that damn nut cause he is so worried he will loseit. Yet just when he thought he has lost it BOOM it appears. That is what you look like in your brain when you worry.
Most of us are not present in our lives cause we worry about the things the unknown. I ask you… “WHY ARE YOU PUTTING SO MUCH ENERGY INTO SOMETHING YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER??”
Try this, surrender, before you curse me out saying screw that, let me give you a tool on how to do this.. It is done by changing your THOUGHT from worry to gratitude. Instead of making a TO DO list or HOLY SHIT list make a list of what you are proud of and grateful for right now this moment. — Here is mine–
Laughter, Language, music, light, love, 4 walls, CHOCOLATE!!, my wife, my son, the source energy that surrounds me.
You have to begin to realize your past is in the past, stop giving it power in your present. Same goes for the future. Live in the present.
Begin to build yoru own source of energy of being present in life. The things we want in life already exist we have to stop the chatter in our heads long enough to attract them.




What is your truth?

I was abandoned by family, I’ve had to pick myself up off the floor several times. I have been lied too, I have lied, my heart has crumbled, and you know what, that is a majority of everyone’s story.

Knowing your awareness of what your truth is, what you are still holding on to, and what always holds you back. I may have had a rough past, but the difference between then and now.. I made decisions and choices coming up from the dark that have been scary, vulnerable, and well worth it.

The question I ask you is, what are you going to do now? what do you choose now? cause you can either keep focusing on the past or you can focus and get what you want.

Write 5 things on a piece of paper that you truly want. MONEY, CAR, LOVE, CONFIDENCE, whatever it is…. ok now circle the one that you want more than anything. Seriously; the one that means the most to you. GTG

Ok. Everyday read the one you circled, everyday believe you can have it, Everyday feel that you have received “BELIEVE IN YOU” and boom!! the more you believe in yourself and jump into your desires is another step closer to you.

 Believe that anything even you, yes you are POSSIBLE. When you believe EVERYTHING will happen; thatswuzup

 Take a Stance

What is your non-negotiables???

What are the things in life that you want that you will not negotiate in having. Some say it would be an athletic partner, a kind heart, chocolate, and even beer. 

Why is it that if someone is in an abusive relationship people are quick to say get out, your gut tells you to get out of the relationship. Know how many of you when I said abusive relationship figured it was a husband and wife or boyfriend/girlfriend being physically abused. Most do, What if I brought it to your attention that I meant brother and sister, mother and daughter, father and son, Aunt and niece, or even co-worker to co-worker being verbally and emotionally abusive.

Why is it that we never want to see our transparency? Why don’t we realize that verbal and emotional abuse leaves a much longer and deeper scare than physical.

If you are in a relationship or know of someone that is in a relationship described above.

TAKE A STANCE, believe that all you have to do is leap and get out, all you have to do is support not judge people who are in a relationship like that. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE HEARD. The leap is that easy, it’s the FEAR that over comes us. 

Every success story of anyone who has been abused and survived the end story goes like this ” I had,had enough and just left, I just walked out, it was the most amazing feeling in the world” ” I survived”

Take a stance, believe in your non-negotiables… I believe in you.


If you had an extra hour

If you were givin an extra hour a day, what would you do with it??

I have come to realize on this amazing Monday, I asked around 5 people how their weekend was, all 5 people came back with the same answer: BUSY. They ran here and there, they had 2 birthday parties to go to, they dealt with their kids running around and screaming their heads off. 

When I heard all that I had to ask myself… Why do people naturally complain with the word busy, are they wanting empathy or are they releasing some sort of frustration?

SO then I asked, if I give you an extra hour a day, what would you do with it? BOOM everyone was like sleep, golf, relax at the pool, cook an authentic meal. So then I asked them ok your wish is my command now think about this, How would it feel if you did that 1 hour with the upmost LOVE.

I don’t mean like you love your mom or kids, I mean like you LOVE doing that one thing with the most authitic love you can devour within yourself. The kind of LOVE where you let go of every fear, every doubt, every worry, and just LOVE the 1 hour. 

Most of them said sure that would be no problem. Ok, I said now since I gave you that 1 extra hour I want to challenge you to feel and believe in that type of love for the other 24. You see, once we let go of what is stopping us from having complete love we can have it all the time. Begin to say over and over make a list of the things you love. I love my feet for giving me the ability to walk. I love my coffee for helping me get the morning started. I love the way my socks feel. I love, I love, I love. 

Continue to talk about the things you love until the night comes were you can see and feel LOVE. When someone can ask you how was your weekend and you look back at them and say it was fantastic. ( and you can re-feel all the love again)

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Diff, between Desire and Willpower

Wiz up party peeps, If I haven’t said it yet I want to say it now and profess my love for Brooke Castillo, she is a master life coach that I admire as well as stalk. LOL She wrote a little something that really touched my soul and I am going to share that with you today! LUCKY YOU

Brooke: There are two things you have to master to loose weight: Desire and Hunger

Desire for something delicious, Desire for entertainment, Desire for escape, Desire to avoid emotions: Understanding Hunger.

Ok so when Brooke wrote this, it got me to thinking… Most of us say I need the willpower to not eat or over eat, but I firmly believe if we understood the cause of our desire we can change how we look at food/weight.

OK OK hear me out. How many times have you said OOOOVAAYY I need more will power to work out to stop eating, stop yourself and say… I want the desire to work out and I want the desire to not overeat!!! 

You see what we did there we changed the way we thought about DESIRE, we changed how we viewed what the word means to us on an emotional higher level. (Brooke)– “And then we can free to only eat when we are truly hungry”


I have created a three step process GTG (Gratitude, Thought process, and Group) that will give you tools to guide you to finding the answers to all the questions you constantly repeat over and over in your mind. If your ready to take that leap, to believe in yourself. 

I’m Here


Grow like a weed

It’s ok that we still feel every negative emotion, but when we can have a sense of confidence and empowerment that goes along with it our emotions are managed.

 Don’t get distracted by the world  when your solveing problems or preventing them.

If what you believe and what you feel has yet to help you grow, then make the choice to believe and feel differently.

Think about this: the only difference between a flower and a weed is how you see it.

what you believe and what you feel are only choices that you are making!- thatswuzup

Creating Positive Passion

Think about a time when you felt passion or joy!!!! you got it,,,, good wouldn’t you love to feel that way all the time or at least most of the time. Here are some tools and different way of thinking to get you there.
Everyone creates negative passion every single day, yes I said every single day.  When you complain… about your Job, co-workers, relationships, people.. etc. etc.
Think about how you manifest anger, doubt, confidence stomper, worry, envy. when you create negative passion. Why would you want to feel that way??? You don’t right ok so try this.
STOP!! create positive passion by feeling the joy of passion, by understanding that the world does not create you, you create you. write down what you do love about your job, the little things wether it be my desk is close to the bathroom, or I get a long lunch. See the positive areas to switch your brain. Then rehearse it, make it a habit of feeling joy and adding to the list of positivity.
Remember when you learned how to ride a bike or tie your shoe, you practiced, you rehearsed it, now you can tie a shoe or ride a bike without worry. Your brain automatically stop’s your negative worry thinking and leads you straight into positive. Be passionate about YOU, it seriously is that simple.