Setting ourselves Free

AS we are beginning to settle into 2021, I have this nudging pull to share with you a poem I wrote when I was in High School. It brings out the sameness we all have within us, the sameness we all struggle with and the sameness we are created with. Yet with the labels and the judgement we begin to categories ourselves and others in different ways so much so that we lose ourselves in the process of being like everyone else.  

“In a room, a very small room stands a box, a box with imagination, courage, strength, and certainty. Now this box is not alone, you see, in another room stands more boxes with the same characteristics the same desire to have hopes and dreams but their jammed packed in they have no room to breathe.

Yet, they stand in another room away, away from reach.

What is the purpose of having those characteristics if your just going to keep it in a box away from self and others?

Who places it there, how did it get there, what is the purpose?

No, I don’t get it either, you see when we separate our characteristic from our hopes and dreams, we hold our true selves back from breathing in our light, from taking on that good fight that will eventually set us free.” -Tammy Ward

You see, we are all more the same than we think. Pain is in all over us, Joy is in all of us. We all have things we put in boxes, yes, the boxes can be of all shape and sizes but they all contain the same thing. They contain the things we need, the things we want, the things we remember. Be grateful for your pain and for your joy because It is easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than think your way into a new way of acting (Jerry Sternin).

Stop allowing your emotions to separate you from your true self. Invest in you, fight for you. Above all take ownership of your boxes what can you do with them, what can you put inside them that will lead you to finding you.

Continuous Awakening

I feel like 2020 the word WOKE became prevalent and everybody’s thoughts and actions WOKE from systematic racism WOKE from political views, WOKE from what life was to what life is now. I want also offer or remind you that being woke is a continuous awakening. That being WOKE is always occurring. Our lives can change on a dime, we know that, we also know that our knowledge base can grow beyond measure and If we step outside our comfort zone We can always be learning. Being WOKE is being in the present moment.

WOKE is a continuous action. Take the time to look at a moment and say “What can I learn from this? Do I need to learn patience? Do I need to learn to love? Do I need to learn to breath? Do I need to learn to absorb the things that I am reading, Absorb the things that I am listening to , Absorb the Mantra that I am saying. And do all those things serve me?

So, on this first Monday of 2021, Be WOKE, Be WOKE IN possibility. That my friends is how we continue our awakening, by continuously to be awake in the present moment.

Welcome 2021 Let’s do this! Embrace Life Boldly

Coming into my own

Here I was once again for the millionth time throwing myself on the floor allowing my emotion to wrap me like a body bag. As the memories of past experiences and the failures from those experiences are played like an accordion in my mind, they give my thoughts live ammunition to shoot out words that no longer serve me. The response from all of it sends a rainfall of tears down my face as my throat closes and my chest remains heavy. I look up from my pillow angry at life and ready to blame, in hopes that the anger at the blame will give me some sort of calmness inside my storm. It doesn’t. It didn’t. I still wanted to remember the fear of her hand smacking me across the face, her eyes telling me I’m not worth a two-bit whore, and her voice screaming all my imperfections twenty-four-seven. My youth has trauma. Let me be a victim, a statistic, and broken. But what does that solve. NOTHING!

As I was coming into my own, I would replay those moments several times throughout the day knowing that I am choosing to hold on to them, holding on to the victim mentality, it was easier for me to stay worthless. Because if I become something that meant I would have to work on not being nothing.

I knew I had to find the courage to make the choice to get up, dust myself off, and erase the body outline of myself from where I laid.

So, I began. I thought to myself If I spend half my life feeling and being shit and it led me nowhere, what would it look like if I spend the other half of my life feeling and being of hope and joy. Where would it lead me? I thought, how hard can it be, Ill wake up smile and live HAPPY. I will get up early work out, listen to amazing music, and get my energy flowing.  BULLSHIT! IT DOES NOT HAPPEN THAT WAY. It does not work that way, because I can’t just forget what I have endured throughout life up to know. I had to find a way to endure and yet overcome.

I had to dig deep into my hourly thought patterns and figure out a way to disrupt my negative self shit talk every time they came racing in, like a formula one car on its last lap. I had to figuratively pick up a sledge hammer and break down walls that prevented me from trusting myself. But the hardest of all, the thing that was most imperative, I had to forgive my abuser, forgive myself, and decide to start where I was and be present in every moment. To let go and stop living in the past. 

When I think about what serves me, I think about high vibrations, connecting to my energy source, and working through my bullshit the moment it comes up by asking myself the “Is that a true statement”. The moment I want to go off on a tangent and feel some sort of shame I ask myself, “Girl is that true, does no one love you?” Nine times out of ten someone always loves me, even when I feel like that someone is me. You see the question is not “does no one love you” the question is why am I feeling like this, what situation has triggered this emotion? Then I break it down. I get down to the nitty gritty, I follow this three P system I created to get thru the negative moments.

Pause– I pause to take a breath, I pause to respond instead of react.  

Process– I process my emotions and thoughts. I allow them to be recognized and then flow through me.

Proclaim– I set intention, I proclaim a new narrative, a new truth, & a new mantra, to have loving energy.

This system created a new habit. I stopped deciding to stay in the habit of expecting or thinking the worst. I began to come into my own knowing I was worth more than my past experience. And so are you!

Embrace what life has to offer.

I have always had this saying “thats wuz up.” You might see some of my earlier broadcasting or content using this phrase. I said it, because sometimes in life when it all goes to shit and you truly don’t feel like there is a way out; that is the moment to Embrace life. In all it’s fucked up shit and in all it’s glory. Thats wuz up is not throwing hands in the air and saying fuck it, it is saying well hell… I learned my lesson on that and helllzz yaa i am on the right track.

As the beautiful Kelly Clarkson says, “We are all misfits living in a world on fire.” (NO, I do not have rights to this song). Embrace this life, embrace this moment. Let’s make the best of it. OK Say it with me THATS WUZ UP!!!!

Embrace life boldly, in awareness.

The idea to Embrace life boldly is to fully become aware. When we speak of transformation we talk of awareness.

A portion of that awareness is recognizing what is true and what isn’t.

The mental dialogue going on inside your head will never stop, it will continue to go on and on. But how much of it what is says turns out to be true?

The most important in true growth is realizing you are not the voice of the mind.

Most of the talking is a waste of energy. That the real problem is not you, it is the commotion the mind makes about life.

What can you do to slow down your mind? Better yet, are you willing to break the habit of your thoughts being your reality of life?

Facts Vs Feelings Workbook

Where you at in life? Are you happy, mediocre, in doubt, or do you have that shoulda mentality. Are you tired of saying “What is wrong with me.”

I am offering you a plan, a plan to to find all the little things that stop you from living your best life. That plan includes work, but isn’t time that you finally do the work to transform yourself, into your best self?

I have created a workbook that will help guide you in finding the facts behind your feelings. This workbook helps you to see that you have the choice, the choice to create. Click on the link below to begin.

Facts VS Feelings workbook

ATTACK life by the horns

Have you been so resistant to change? Have you said to yourself I know I can change but how. Have you tried to A.T.T.A.C.K your thoughts and worth by the horns? Take a look below at the practice of using the tool in the abbreviated for A. T. T. A. C. K.

Awareness: Become aware of triggers, patterns, habits

Thought: Re-route your thoughts to be productive and truth telling

Time: You didn’t create these habits overnight and you won’t change them over night

Action: take action on the areas you have been longing to improve in

Choice: Make a productive choice that fuels your growth not burns it down

Knowledge: Understanding how you operate and what boundaries need to be set is power.

This process of A.T.T. A. C. K has transformed  countless clients to transition out of attacking their character and worth to develop healthier habits and patterns by using tools that transformed their mindset towards personal growth. As we become aware of our actions, we can uproot our thoughts to enhance growth. Yes it does take pain staking time, but what do you have to loose. By taking action and developing a process that will guide you in making choices that bring out the best version of self.

Knowledge is power, and if are ready to do the work and gain knowledge of the what, when, how, and why you have feel judged, ridiculed, unloved, and unable to stop the stress of fear to take you over, then this process is for you.

A.T.T.A.C.K the way you talk shit to yourself, A.T.T.A.C.K the way you allow others to take you for granted,

A.T.T.A.C.K those damn old habits and patterns that no longer serve you. Become the best version of yourself and have a conversation with your doubts. Let the doubt know you see it festering inside you, but also let it know that you refuse to allow it to take you over. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable.


4 – 5 days?!?

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Looking back at all the journals I have, some completed others half way filled out and then some with only 4- 5 pages filled in. I begin to question why only 4-5 pages. Then the honest conversation happened. I give up, for some reason or another I give up on whatever goal or desire or dream I had. So I said fuck it, let’s dig deep into this. I grabbed one of those journals and I wrote at the top… Why do I only give 4-5 days to my dreams.

Fear of course was one of them, then I looked at the word LAZY, tough word for me, tough because I know that there are times when I decide to be lazy, because it is to fucking hard to move past my thoughts to believe that I could do it. My thoughts are if I cannot go all the way then why do it at all, and BOOM there is the real reason of the 4-5 days.

I have to go past the 4-5 day marker, but I am not going to do the typical ” FOR 30 DAYS I WILL DO THIS” NO, what I will do is 7, YES 7 because that is past 4-5 days and that is achievement. Once I go past 7 then I will go 10 and so on and so on. I do this for me, for my family, for my happiness. Take this journey with me. The dream might be big, but if we complete it in small steps we will eventually get there or at least we will reach another leg of our journey that builds another dream.- thatswuzup.

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