Being Stuck.

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At one time or another you have felt STUCK. You have had or said the words I AM STUCK.

What would you say if I told you it was created by certain TRIGGERS throughout your life?

All Triggers do is heighten your choice of what emotion you want to feel. YES, TRIGGERS, those crazy wild things that wake up your subconscious and say hey you yes you, your being triggered by something and well since you’re not sure what it is, your brain will go into protective mode and, well it will give you the emotions of feeling STUCK!! Here you go. UGGGHHHHH. AND the cycle repeats itself.

This blog will guide you into saying NO MORE. Because, once triggers come to full awareness, that is the moment to take a second and re-frame your words around your emotions. Instead of saying I am angry, let yourself say “The feeling of anger is flowing through me in this moment… This causes both physical and emotional freeing to occur in your body and mind.

Hi my name is Tammy and my life has been a roller coaster, of abuse, struggles with self-doubt, and letting fear keep me from finding my way in the world, six years ago I decided to take back my life and I transformed myself from a girl who was afraid of my own voice to a woman who learned how to balance life, kick old habits to the curb, and transition my thoughts into making choices that best served me. This podcast is being created for YOU, for you to discover YOU. Knowing that you are not alone and that even you can dissect habits and make choices that give you, your Power back.

How many times have you said I am just Stuck, stuck in this job, stuck in the relationship, stuck from being and feeling where I truly want to be in life? Just STUCK!!!

 If those times have been many then hear this… The moment you can release the thinking that you are your emotions you then and only then can understand that Feelings, thoughts and sensations are all energy and you choose what energy you give them. That is when triggers come up and knock on our door. Triggers are either suppressed emotions or trapped emotions that have not been released yet.  

Feeling sad about something is holding on to it. Have you ever found yourself going off the handles and catching yourself either in the middle or afterword’s thinking WHY THE HELL DID I JUST DO THAT? Most likely you were triggered by something and your brain went directly into Fight or flight once it went into fight or flight your muscle memory of how you react to that emotion kicked in. That is why we over eat, or yell at someone, blame others and prevent ourselves from moving forward.

I used to think that my PTSD from childhood abandonment and abuse caused my triggers, but then I realized my choices were keeping an emotion trapped inside me. It is what was causing my triggers. Anytime I didn’t want to be somewhere or talk to somewhere, my triggers raised to the forefront of my being and then instead of letting the emotion of the trigger flow through me I blamed it on my PTSD therefore I was allowing the emotions to stay inside of me festering, festering until the volcano of anger was hot like lava. When I would allow the triggered to take me over, I would Let off steam I would vent, I would scream and pick fights with others. I no longer had control of my body.

So, if you don’t know let me tell you now, that way I was reacting and expressing my triggers is not the right answer.  All that did was feed more negative thoughts, and energy into my life. It was like I was asking to be stuck, like I wanted to stay stuck.  Come to think of it, I probably was because it was much more comfortable to be stuck, angry, sad, and lonely than it was to be aware of my own suppressed emotions.

Look We are the kings and queens of suppressing our emotions. We have done it for so long and so many times that we don’t even think about doing it. Once we realize the thoughts that keep us attached to those suppressed feelings WILL keep us trapped in the mind, because we are choosing to recycle the same thoughts and the recycling of the same thoughts Keep us Stuck.

When you experience a trigger or a negative feeling, no matter how it shows up for you, you experience it because it is already inside of you, from being suppressed from you allowing it to keep you stuck, not because of an outside circumstance, or a person.

So, from here on out let the feeling and or emotion flow through you, do not claim it, do not own it, recognize it and release it. Give yourself permission to make the CHOICE to respond (not react) to the awareness of your feelings. Ask yourself, am I that, am I anger, Am I stuck or is this just a feeling I am having in this moment. the choice you make my friends will either keep you stuck or it will set you free!

Remember the work works, keep working, tell yourself that you GET TO be UNSTUCK, you GET TO feel free, you GET TO stop suppressing your feelings. Let the feeling flow through you, not attach itself to you.

Now go forth and do great thing and give yourself permission to live your best life.

Keep loving, Keep Growing, and keep embracing life boldly.

If you are finding yourself saying WOW! That was a lot to remember and a lot to put into action. Well, you’re not alone Me and my clients have struggled in the cycle of our own chaos, and it has taken us a while to do the work so if you would like that extra support to become UNSTUCK book a FREE consult today. Let’s see if my style of coaching is a good fit for you to become FREE.

Click here to book a FREE consult and in the subject line write I’m Ready and I’ll do the rest.

Published by Coach Tammy Ward

It has always been my mission in life to help others and to encourage people to become the best version of themselves. I got lots of opportunity through my military career to serve as both mentor, personal coach, and informal counselor. I have struggled through the years of battling my thoughts around depression from childhood abandonment, teenage doubts, midlife failures, various relationship dynamics, and deep-seated beliefs. It is the working, studying, and learning new habits and patterns that has expanded my mindset into a healthier way that has given me purpose. As a life coach, I offer you my ears, my heart, as well as my experience to guide you with specific tools for that can disrupt the limiting beliefs that are holding you back. I offer ways for you to exchange the negative habits and patterns in your life for a brighter stronger mindset. If the first thought you have each day are full of self-doubt or anxiety sets in on all the have tos and shoulds, if you continue through your day with a roller coaster of emotions about your life and / or relationships, or even if there is something you have been longing to do, but you keep getting in your own way, consider reaching out. Isn’t it about time you show up for you? Make this day the start to a new year of loving yourself. Let me be that beacon of light that helps you find the best version of yourself.

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